Friday, January 23, 2015

Anthony Mackie disrespects people with "dreadlocks"



After reading and watching the interview with Anthony Mackie online for The Grio:


My thoughts are as follows:

First of all, basically what you are saying anthony is that black actors and actresses are NOT “damn good performers “ or “the best the industry has to offer”.?  I guess to you a black person would’ve had to create the first movie, produce, direct, act in it, do hair and make up, edit, promote and sale way over budget in order to be considered for an Oscar in your book. Humph… inserts blank stare. I’m just saying, there are way too many talented, best in the industry and damn good black performers that have been snubbed time and time again, when it comes to the Oscars.
Anthony Mackie blank starring at himself

Side note: Honestly I didn’t think that 12 Years a Slave deserved an Oscar. It was not the best acting that I’ve seen. Just a different version/view point of the same old slave story that been told over and over and OVER again. Lupita, I love you lady with your gorgeous dark skin tone and eloquence that surpasses most.  But why did you really get that Oscar… Let me remind you: it was a hand me down just to say “Oh we gave Y’all an Oscar, so shut up with your nagging and take this award for being a concubine of the slave master.” Oh wait isn’t that what Halle Berry won her Oscar for too… being the white man’s concubine.  Hmmmm seems to be a trend her for black female actresses. Let me go even further Hattie McDaniel won an Oscar in 1940 for playing a “Mammy” role in Gone with the Wind. Fast-forward to 2009 and when Mo’Nique wins it for playing a drug addicted, welfare recipient, bad mother, and angry black woman in the movie Precious. Let’s not forget Octavia Spencer in The Help, serving white people and raising their children in their homes.  So it looks to me as most of the wins are for black people playing negative roles. As far as the male actors we are not going to speak on that, too much too little time.

Secondly you said that, “People are just tired of being bombarded with race right now,” Mackie said. “So everybody is shying away from certain topics and certain movies.”  Soooo the movie “Black or White is not a race movie… Hmmm title sure does state otherwise.

Now on to the most blatant lines of self hate.  ““Like my nephew wanted to grow dreadlocks. I’m like fine, I’ll sit you down and I’ll watch The First 48 with you and everybody you see on that show, that’s doing something wrong, they’re black dudes with dreadlocks. So, do you want to be seen as part of the problem or do you want to be an individual?”
“Let’s just say you have locks and you walking down the street. The police pull you over and say you fit the description of somebody.  You start yelling and arguing with the cops. Next thing you know you pressed up against the wall going to jail for something you’re not even involved in just because you look like somebody and you don’t know how to handle yourself,” Mackie said.

Anthony Mackie giving side eye to own comments.
Like really dude, I’m curious to see your response would be the same if you had a niece and she wanted to date a white man. Would you sit her down and have her to watch episodes of COPS, because just about every person on there is a deranged white man on drugs. Crazy right, yeah I know.

The third thing for you to stereotype dreadlocks says to me that you have zero interactions with people that have them.  *In my snooty white voice* I take it all of your friends are white.  *Does snobby fake laugh* TUH, Dude give me a break. I have a well assorted group of clients and most of which work in corporate America, working as high as C level executives and some are well to do self sufficient entrepreneurs. These men and women are law-abiding citizens who not only stand out as an INDIVIDUAL because they don’t conform to the standards of what America sees fit for a black man or woman.  You my friend, blend in and make the white people feel safe when you have a low cut hairstyle for men or a long flowing weave or relaxed hair for women.

The loc stars and dread heads that I know definitely don’t contribute to the problem when they are consistently overcoming barriers, roadblocks and pure hate from those that don’t share the beautiful hue of black. Matter of fact when they excel they stand out and never do they blend in, showing people that you cannot clump “everyone” together. Your comments were just as ignorant as someone saying Every black person receives welfare benefits. Numbers show that most recipients are white.

I get it you are trying to play it safe so you can continue to work, but you fail to realize that you, mr mackie are part of the problem, much more than you know. For you to belittle your own race proves you have no backbone, no love of self and furthermore no respect for our race. I officially revoke your black card and shred it to pieces. Your love of money and self-hate is proving you to be a disgrace to even be called black. Your own mother should spit in your face while your father bops you upside the head. How dare you to even form your lips to say that every black man with dreadlocks is a part of the problem? Or maybe this was a stunt tactic to drive people to go see the movie you play a supporting role in. You boy are no Denzel Washington, Not even a Will Smith, or even a smidgen of Samuel L. Jackson. Get over yourself, most people only know you from your 1 blockbuster hit The Hurt Locker or the movie Notorious.


It’s sad to see when someone makes it to top the feel the need to deprecate the ones that supported him or her from the beginning. I pray that you become conscious and wake up then I can reissue your black card. LOL Understand that you have a platform that can be leveraged in a positive way, yet instead you used it in a negative light. I hope your nephew does grow a set of “dreadlocks” and he will come to me to get them started.  I will sit him down and show him the true king that he is. I will enlighten him on how our ancestors were kings and queens and wore their hair in its natural state. The opportunity to open his mind to see how beautiful, intelligent, creative and unique our people are would be priceless. Teaching a young king to be unlike you would make a world of difference. Meanwhile I'll leave you with this video:

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Hair Growth

I have countless patients, friends, and family members complaining about how their hair refuses to grow.  Then, the comparisons start.   “Why do (insert ethnic group) type of people always have such long hair?”  This is a troubling issue for many.  Fortunately, many studies have looked into this very issue and can give us insights into these quandaries.
Hair length is dictated by the rate of growth and the duration of the growing or anagen phase of the hair cycle.  Studies have shown that the rate of hair growth does not greatly vary amongst races.  The duration of hair growth before it enters the shedding or telogen phase of the hair cycle is dependent on many factors, mainly genetics.  Although, environmental and internal factors also contribute to the rate and duration of the hair cycle.  


The anagen phase of hair growth lasts for 2-6 years on average.  Clearly, if the rate of growth is constant; then an individual with a 6 year long anagen phase will have significantly longer hair than an individual with a 2 year long anagen phase.  

Rate and duration of hair growth really only dictates how long a hair can be potentially.  However, hair breakage can obviously shorten hairs and prevent them from appearing to grow longer.  This is the main dilemma for individuals who feel their hair is not growing.  Hair breakage is ultimately caused by structural weakness in the hair shaft.  There are genetic hair shaft abnormalities; however, most are acquired.
The differences in the burden of hair breakage vary amongst races.  Comparative studies amongst races on hair structure have shown that individuals of African descent acquire single-strand knots that act as points of weakness.  Single-strand knots are not typically seen in Caucasian or Asian hair.  Individuals with this problem are basically giving themselves a haircut everytime they comb their hair.  This explains why dreads or locks can go grow so long.  Unfortunately, relaxing the hair to prevent the knots does not seem to increase length, as the hair has now lost tensile strength due to the harsh chemicals in the relaxers.
Thus, if you are in overall good general health and your hair is not gaining length; lack of hair growth is not generally the issue.  The problem lies in acquired hair breakage, most commonly caused by everyday hairstyling practices.

Thursday, December 4, 2014

Black Women Miss Out on Life



Yes I said it. Why you ask?  It all relates to hair. Women have been obsessing about their tresses and it has caused them to miss out on life. In the past I have asked people to join me in my endeavors and have heard the following excuse as to why they can’t enjoy fun stuff and life: Giiiiiirl, I can’t do _________ because it will mess up my hair. Whaaaaat??? Ummmm ok * blank stare*

First of all, it’s a weave or you are au’ naturale. Second of all, so you mean to tell me that your hair prevents you from having fun. Third, again why is this a valid excuse? LMAO

Ladies, stop allowing your hair to prevent you from living a full life. I have seen so many women miss out on fun because of their hair.  I mean really look at all the things you say you can’t do because of your tresses:

                                        1.     Swimming – I can’t get my hair wet.

    2.     Exercise – I can’t sweat out my hair.









                                              3.     Sex – Don’t mess up my hair.


   4.     Sleep – I just got my hair did.












   
                       5.     Outdoor Activities – If I am going to sweat I’m not going.



    6.     Parties/Events - My weave/hair not done.















                                              7.     Time – I have to do my hair.



LOL, reeeeally. Y’all are funny. I have heard a gamut of excuses as to why a female can’t do something and they all begin with hair. Queens let’s just let go of the excuses and jump out there and do something different. Enjoy life and all it has to offer by ridding yourselves of the deep-rooted hair obsessions. Its just hair. So what it may not be styled today. That just might be the day you meet your soul mate. Or that just might be the day that you find a new hobby. Orrrr even learn a new sex position in the bedroom, shower, or kitchen.

Quit wasting time being overly concerned with how your hair looks, it’s a given everyone will have bad hair days. Annnnnnnnd who cares? Live, Laugh, Love and enjoy many the opportunities that are being extended to you. Don’t miss out on great memories because you are afraid of what others will say or think. Tell them to kick rocks with no shoes on. Bye girl I’ve got things to do and people to meet! 


In the scheme of it, its your hair (or not) have fun and seek all new possibilities. Besides that is what the good ol’ bun and ponytail is for. Its been saving lives since that beginning of time. Throw on some makeup, pull out your big earrings, and put on your highest heels and strut hunny, because you are fierce no matter what’s going on with your tresses.  Just call and make an appointment with your stylist to S.imply K.eep Y.our H.air H.ealthy!

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

7 Reasons you'll get a Side Eye or Blank Stare

7 Things you don't do or say to a person with Natural Hair or Locs


1.    Don’t EVVVVVVERRRR touch their hair with out permission.

You are liable to get smacked, get a serious side eye, or bring back a nub. That will be the day you learn a lesson in ethics. So NEVER touch our hair because we don't know where your hands have been or what type of energy you possess. Next time Ask before you Reach Out and Touch someone.




2.     Don’t assume they smoke marijuana.

With the sudden increase of people wearing locs and natural hair, it seems to be the image that most people think of are Rappers, Jamaicans, Rasta’s and etc. This stereotype is just plain asinine. Heck I know waaaaay more weave queens and barber cuts that indulge in that pass time. Please don't be rude by asking if a person smokes just because of how they chose to where their hair. 




3.     Don’t ask if their hair is real.

Yeah its pretty awesome that locs are in and more and more people want to take part in the trend. BUUUUUT just because Chiquita went and got faux locs and Keisha went and bought a faux Afro doesn’t mean that everyone with locs and Afros are rocking fake hair. The tell tale sign is always in the answer of the question: “How long have you been natural or loc’d?”





4.     Don’t put your nose in their hair.

Guess what most people with natural crowns keep their hair pretty clean. So if you walk by or are standing in line behind someone with a wonderful fragrance coming from their hair PLEASE DO NOT put your nose in it to get a better whiff. This may also constitute a major blank stare and eye roll. *Excuse me my hair is clean no boogers allowed, thank youuuuuuu.*


5.     Don’t give a back handed compliment.

Ok sooooo, you like a person’s hair and you decide to give them, what you deem a compliment, but then is followed by a negative statement. Like the following: “I like your locs, but I like to change my style.”  Or “I like your hair but it’s too natural for me.” Or this one: “I like your hair, but I like working better.” Wait excuse me, whaaaaat? *Inserts side eye, blank stare and eye roll* TUH, you are killing me with this one. Soooo changing of styles is: Wavy, Tousled Curls, Straight, Feathered Bob or High bun? I’m going to wait on this one… that’s 5 different ways to style a weave. How is that versatile again? I myself have worn all of those in a month’s time not to mention the plethora of French rolls, braided updo’s and coil styles. Oh and you do realize that many locstars are in management and upper management positions? *Pulls out chair... yes please have a seat while I sip this tea*



6.     Don’t say that you are natural under your sew-in.

Girl bye, at least locstars and natural queens are confident in our beauty.  I don’t give a rat’s arse if you are natural under that raggedy sew-in. See the women I know have their edges along with thick full tresses and they don’t hide under a mask of make up and someone else’s hair. Shout to all my beautiful locstars and natural queens rocking their hair out loud!




7.     Don’t refer to their hair as weave.

Yesssss this happens.  If you like a person’s hair, then just call it hair. I have had people, usually not black; say… I like your weave. *OMG Nooooooo, I wasn’t reeeeeady* (had to gain composure) Once again you will get a super major blank stare, eye roll and head tilt on this comment. Clearly you watch too much TV. And think that all black women refer to their hair as weave. Ummmm NO. It’s our hair, grown from the scalp that has been well cared for and falls down our back. *sigh* 




My mom always taught me if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Just simply helping those of you non-locstars, creamy crack addicts, weave wearers and barber cut fiends to understand proper protocol when addressing someone’s hair. Just be respectful and speak to others like you want to be spoken to.  I am here to S.imply K.eep Y.our H.air H.ealthy while educating the masses.